Ballet Moms … Surviving It (Part II)

September 5, 2013

Welcome back. As promised here’s Part II of my Ballet Moms … Surviving It post. Be sure to read Part I in which we discuss the dedication and commitment of a ballet mom, and dad, to their child’s dance training as well as practical tips from “seasoned” moms.

All right, now on with the rest of the tips …

BalletMom_gigi_aaaA Ballet Mom’s Survival Guide (cont.)


Number 9

Let your school know when your child will miss a class regardless of the reason, especially illness. Attendance is a sign of commitment and the staff needs to know the student has a legitimate reason for being absent.

Number 10Parents are coaches, managers and procurement agents. Make sure your student has the sleep, food, physical therapy or hug he or she needs. And stretch yourself when you can by offering that same support to other students and parents.

Number 11Choose your words and your timing carefully. Encourage your child to communicate with the school before jumping in to address a situation. Unless it is an emergency, and usually there are only a few of those, don’t approach teachers or administration with problems immediately before a class or a show. Most issues can wait and you will likely have a clearer perspective.

Number 12If your school performs, the three to four weeks prior to a show is the time to concentrate, remain calm and keep your dancer focused on the fun parts of performing.

Number 13Always thank the adult who helps your child, even if they change something, like that bun you labored over! Parents and kids alike become stressed in the theatre and it’s easy to forget we all want every child to succeed.

Number 14Unless you’re called to be in the costume/green room, it’s not a good place for parents or students to loiter.

Number 15Check your school’s calendar and bulletin boards as part of your daily routine for schedule updates and be sure to read all e-mails sent from your school.

Number 16After a long day, some great songs for your playlist: “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” by the Rolling Stones, “Tomorrow” from “Annie,” and “Faith” by George Michael.

Wow! Thank you, moms! As I approach my one-year anniversary as a CPYB mom, I appreciate the wisdom in this list. It is a treasure trove of great information for ballet parents and students from coast to coast.

I’d love to hear what you would add to this list. Will you take a moment to share your thoughts and advice in the comments?

One response to “Ballet Moms … Surviving It (Part II)”

  1. Cathy Carson says:

    I think we moms need to be aware of the Ballet Brick Wall.

    Ballet moms and dancers that are all consumed and see nothing beyond a career in dance are in for a rude awakening.
    Age is everything.
    If you are not in a professional program (I did not say pre-pro) by 17 they are on their own at 18 there are few company audition opportunities and fierce competition. But so is the story inside the company world.

    If your daughter is indeed a quality dancer and realistically stands a chance be prepared as a parent to have to surrender them. Meaning letting them go to a company program possibly far away. It all costs money too, a lot. Tuition, rent, food etc. You will sacrifice those years with your child, frankly a move I was never ready to make.
    I am fortunate that we have a great program in town, with a top 5 ballet company, however my daughter is too old at 18. She was told this when auditioning for their professional program, but was instead placed in the top tier of the academy. I do not understand this mindset at all. The most fabulous dancers are mature, but how can one make it when at 18 you are too old to bring into the company?
    My daughter now knows all kinds of info on what really goes on when young people ( some living on their own at 15) are left to their own devices in a major city. However, I feel confident I made the right choice of not letting her go into this realm at too young of an age.

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